“Perpetrators pursue lines of work that give them direct access to their victims” – My therapist. More often than not, there is a significant powerplay involved in abusive relationships (*non-romantic relationships included). When we come to think of broad examples, a few spring to mind: Priests vs. devotees in faith Movie producers/directors vs. actors Teachers vs.Continue reading “Hiding in plain sight – silence is violence”
A study conducted by psychologist Robert S. Feldman, PhD, at the University of Massachusetts published in the most recent Journal of Basic and Applied Social Psychology, found that 60% of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation and told an average of two to three lies. Quoting from Health.com, Feldman studies “verbal deception” and explainsContinue reading “Liar, Liar – The Ripple Effect”
In this fast-paced world of social media, it takes seconds to “like, share, comment and subscribe” on a post that really triggers you. Or has enough comments that makes you feel like you should chime in too. Equally, it seems that the more comments/views a post has, the more credibility it deserves, especially if the post shared by aContinue reading “Mob Mentality – Don’t be a Flying Monkey”
In 2013, the word ‘selfie’ made it to the Oxford Dictionary. Paris Hilton claims to be the pioneer of this phenomena. However, Robert Cornelius, an American pioneer of photography, produced the first ever self-portrait in 1839. Credit where credit’s due. He selfie’d before it was a thing. The 2005 era of ‘selfie sticks’ seems passé. However, selfieContinue reading “I just wanna be famous – social media & narcissism”
“I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.”– Robin Williams, “World’s Greatest Dad”, 2009 Most of us spend more than our lifetime working, however very few of us enjoy what weContinue reading “Banter or bullying? Complexities within the workplace”
Gaslighting originated from a 1938 psychological thriller written by British playwright Patrick Hamilton called Gas Light. The film adaptation Gaslight was released in 1940 and 1944, starring Oscar nominated actress Ingrid Bergman and Charles Boyer. In the movie, husband Gregory, psychologically manipulates his wife Paula into believing she can no longer trust her own perceptions of reality. As the movieContinue reading “Gaslighting – it’s not me, it’s YOU”
There is nothing romantic about someone who is unwilling to leave you alone, in fact, it is not only scary, but illegal. According to the American Psychology Association, stalking is defined as the following: “a pattern of following or observing a person in an obsessional, intrusive, or harassing manner. The pursued individual is typically a partner fromContinue reading “Why stalking is not flattery”
A lot of people assume that going to therapy is the same thing as having a friendly ‘chat’ with a friend. Some people also don’t believe that going to therapy is necessary since they have a great support network. Others just assume that therapy requires laying down with your eyes shut. Okay – this mayContinue reading ““Ah, sorry to hear””
To have a relationship with someone does not necessarily mean it is a ‘romantic relationship’. Life is all about relationships! The relationship you have with your mother, your father, your neighbour, your work colleague..the list goes on. The depth and type of relationship however, always differs. Some relationships are healthy while others are dysfunctional. InterferingContinue reading “Relationship drama – it takes three to tango”
We’ve all heard the childhood chant: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. The message is pretty clear: you cannot hurt me by name-calling. As we grow older, we quickly realise that it is exactly those ‘mean words’ that stick with us. While we may not be able toContinue reading “Sticks & Stones – why words DO hurt”
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